Tuesday 26 March 2013

Time changes

I hate time zone differences. I'm still recovering from all of that. It takes at least 3 hours for my head to acknowledge every day. I was up at night talking to people on the other side of the globe. I hate that I go to bed dreaming of these conversations and wake up expecting a continuation only to find that everyone else has moved on. While I slept, life was happening! The strange thing is that according to that line that goes through London and Accra, I am a couple of hours behind. Yet, when I look around it feels like I was transferred into the future. I begin to share a story or to tell a tale, only to realize that my audience cannot relate to what I do and where I am (or what I did and where I was).

Once, in a conversation on a bus, after saying I was from Africa, the person I was speaking to points to another man and says, "He's from Nigeria. Do you know him?" The other day I was asked if there are night clubs and hang outs on Africa, if I live with animals in my back yard and if the beer in Africa tastes the same as that in the US. One other guy, in an effort to relate to me, told me a story about drug trafficking in Jamaica (after all we are all black and I should be able to relate, right?)

Then there's the archaic banking system at home that denies me access to my own cash because I do not have a credit card. I'm sitting here wondering what the word debit means. Surely, if I want to spend money I have, instead of borrowing it and then having to pay it back later, I should be allowed to make that choice, right?

I miss the fuel pump attendant at Engen, Luzira. We called him our Acholi brother. He'd rush towards the car every time he saw my mother, sister or I. He always had a quick joke and smile to share. Once, he even got me a promotional pen! :) Here, it's every man/woman for himself. You can even do your own payments for groceries at Walmart. There's no need to talk wait in line or to talk to the cashier. Everything's done by cards.

There's hand sanitizer every where, in every office, in every public bathroom. I was amused that when we were taught Basic First Aid, the first lesson was that, in an effort to save someone else, we should never endanger ourselves. If you can't save them, without risking your own life, then let them be. None of that Ubuntu stuff applies.

It's unlikely that you'll meet your neighbor while you're walking through the 'hood. Everyone drives, windows up and AC on. It's  always too hot (the car needs cooling) or it's too cold (the car needs warming). The roads are so much wider than our little Kampala or Jinja Road. It takes 20 seconds to cross the "little" road outside the hotel I stayed in last week. I timed it. There are highways in town. People are in a hurry to get to wherever. The traffic jams are the same though :)

Yesterday, something in the microwave smelt like fried irish potatoes. My mouth was watering. I miss gonja. Most of my meals here are instant. It was interesting at first. Lasagne in 4 minutes. But then I remembered that I like cooking. I can't find ingredients. I saw cassava once in Walmart.

Here, it takes 21-28 days to get from drilling the surface of an oil well to the point where production can begin. I worked in the Ministry's lab in Entebbe in 2006 when we "discovered" oil and almost 7 years later, where's the oil?

Two more months and the clock winds down again.

Sunday 24 March 2013

home

when the mangoes ripen,
 
 
when the blackberries are ready to be juiced


 
when the air is thick with the smell of tender pawpaws
 
 
when the children ran home bathed in sticky passion fruit
when the strawberries are as thick on the ground as blood
 
 
 
when the orchards are overflowing with succulent oranges
when the banana trees hang low, laden with their sweet burden
 
 
 


Wake me up when I am home.


 

[un]certain

started 25 October 2009

...we play pagan games, give them christian names
and think we are wiser than we were...

...we toy around with the devil's schemes
even when we know nothing is as it seems...

from P :-)

...he let us ride down the slide,
heartbreak always the ending scene
even in the games
we are never a full team...

added 28 Oct 2009

...we think we know where we are going
we are so sure of our journey...

as we try to use reason to decipher the code
he laughs at our attempts, at our folly...

from Joel

...we know then as we so oft forget
that profound truth that rings ever true ..
we at our best are but finite minds in an endless course
No hope at all...
until we at last look to You

from Martin
...we are so sure of our journey
we hesitate to commit our plans to HIM... proverbs 16...

i failed to find an appropriate beginning or end to this, so here's the middle that am unsure about... got a little help from a few friends

The End


Today is the last time we'll walk together, my brother. I wish you were beside me as you have always been. But, today, you cannot carry yourself. So they must carry you to the place where I must bid you farewell.

For your sake, I am fighting the tears that well up within me. I know you would have held my hand as we walked. I know you would not want me to cry. So, for your sake, I will be brave. I will make everyone know how proud I was that you were my brother and my friend. I will remember your strength and your courage and hope that, some day, I maybe as strong and as brave as you are.

They told me you that, throughout the struggle, you never gave up. You never thought twice about what it would cost you. They told me that you always carried two things with you, your smile and a picture of us as little ones. They told me that even at the end you had your two prize possessions with you: a smiling face and me, close to your heart.

The path is difficult and our destination is far. I wish you didn't have to leave me like this. The sun beats down on me as we walk down the path. It reminds me of the sunshine of our childhood. I remember the laughter ringing as we chased each other over the grassy hills of our little village. I remember rolling around in the mud and how the rain always made things clean.

Now the sun is not a comfort but a pain. I am dry within and empty because of my grief. The sun's heat only adds to my scorching torture. The rain offers no comfort; it merely makes things wet, soggy and mouldy. I have no joy, my brother. For how can I rejoice as they carry you away? Of what use are flowers if you cannot see them or birds singing if you cannot hear them?

We've arrived at the place. I have lost my courage. The wall that held my tears back has collapsed. I beat on your chest, hoping that this may change things. You may not be able to fight anymore, but I will not let go, not yet!

' It's too soon. Brother, why must you go? Why must it be so?! Why?!'

They hold me back, saying there's nothing I can do. This is the way of the world and I cannot change it. They say that things will get better for you. They say that this is the only way for your pain to end. They say that when the time is right, we will meet again. I cannot hear what they say. I cannot feel the ground beneath me.

They took your life and, in a way, took mine.

Good bye, my brother. Good bye, my friend.

[humble] submission

The truth is I am unaware of what truth really is.
Hence, I am incapable of thinking with ease.
I am a child and childish in my ways;
Side-to-side, like a pendulum, my head sways.
Thus, it seems sensible to deny me the right to choose;
for whatever choice I make, I always end up at the noose.
Every word I speak, my ignorance betrays;
as I look to you with my ever-naive expectant gaze.
I can't be trusted with my own future.
What, after all do I know about how to nurture?
It is unlikely that I have dreams of my own
or that I will, by myself, become anything better than a clown.
My hopes and aspirations are, at best, a little better than jokes
in addition, I am constantly battling with doubts.
Youthful passion and drive leave a bad aftertaste in your mouth
I will try my best to drive those demons out.
Everytime I speak up I am treated to your familiar frown.
So I will settle myself and calm down.
It's pointless for me to fight you.
Like you said, you are the best at what you do.
Someday, I wonder who decides when, I will be able to stand on my own.
I will have understanding and make my first decision.
Until that day, I will lay my restless head on your shoulder.
I will trust you and follow you, o great leader.
I have but one question, then I will be silent forever
Who decided when it was time for you to take over?

Friday 22 March 2013

shhhh

I heard...

making love is more intimate and beautiful in silence,
when the two of us are rocking back and forth to our heartbeats
when we move to the rhythm of our breaths.